A recurring theme I see among partners of personality disordered people is that, initially, this seemed to be the person of their dreams. We need to be careful when the choice in front of us seems absolutely perfect...
The Devil doesn’t come with pointy horns and a cape. He comes disguised as everything you’ve always wanted. Pray for discernment.
A Bit of wisdom from my fiancé…
When someone shows you their true self, you should believe them!
Having trouble letting go of a relationship?
Sometimes a person has to realize that you can keep somone in your heart, but not in your life.
On whether you’re in a healthy loving relationship or a toxic one….
Love is not supposed to be painful. There is pain involved in any relationship but if it is painful most of the time then something is not working. Loving relationships are based upon appreciation and affection and not fear and manipulation.
On fear of the unknown:
Fear is the opposite of faith. Fear is the belief that God is going to let you down.
Early on my counselor made a very astute observation that hit me like a ton of bricks (paraphrasing).
The problem as I see it is that you have always traded truth for peace. While that might seem like a good choice at the time, postponing the truth for the sake of peace never works. Eventually the truth will always come out.
From Scott Peck’s book The Road Less Traveled on the myth of dependency as love
The second most common misconception about love is that dependency is love…. When you require another individual for your survival, you are a parasite on that individual…. Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other.
Intentionality and deliberateness are the keys to changing your circumstances…from Wayne Dyer:
The secret to changing your life is your intentions. Wishing, hoping and goal setting cannot accomplish change without intention. What is needed is a shift from the inert energy of wanting to the active energy og doing and intention.
On self-examination, by Pearl Bailey:
You never find yourself until you face the truth.
Are you still hanging on to the anger? Confucius:
To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.
In dealing with troubles from Dr. Seuss:
I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead and some come from behind. But I’ve brought a big bat. I’m all ready you see. Now my troubles are going to have trouble with me!
On liking yourself by Elanor Roosevelt
Friendship with ones self is all important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.